Although maybe not true in your marriage or partnership, many of us tend to only note what's wrong: With how the dishes are stacked, the shirts folded, the car parked, the bed (un)made, or the lunches packed.
Consider how your relationship would feel if you decided to "Note The Good."
How? Write a note in which you point out a "good." Recognize something done right. Acknowledge a small task done well (or just done at all). Or simply say something good out loud: "Thanks for picking up your socks" ... "For coming home a little early" ... "for being positive with the kids" ... "for being a great pal."
So simple. Yet so powerful when all of us are so rushed that we usually only find time to note the bad.
Try it. And then tell us the results.