Saturday, April 21, 2012
... oh, if it were only so simple, right? If only we could say "Being a happy couple forever more" boils down to: a) lots of intimacy. Or b) sharing the housework and childcare duties equally. Or c) maintaining loving little rituals. Or d) having shared-friendships. Or e) not taking yourself too seriously. Or f) having a joint sense of purpose. While research would support your choice of a-f above, there is really no one, single, it all "boils down to" point for all happy couples (darn it, I know. If only ...). That said, I just had the really cool opportunity to host one of the best relationship researchers in the country at our university this past week. He studies relationships and intimacy over the lifespan, with a particular focus on older adulthood. Dr. Jon Nussbaum is his name, currently a Professor at Penn State, and author of 14 books, hundreds of studies on relationships and family dynamics, and keynote speaker this week at two events at which I had a front row seat (lucky me, I know, right?) And I learned this week that he's a really cool, nice guy, too. Great to meet you, Jon! I feel like I just made a neat new friend. While I could fill the pages of this blog with tidbits about his fascinating findings on brain health and relationships, marriage in the later years (hint: it can and typically gets WAY better ... when you look at it the right way), and how daughters and wives are really (with big emphasis on REALLY) good for men's longterm health and happiness, I was most struck by his discussion of one simple (I should put that word "simple" in quotes) communication strategy that will serve us well in almost every relationship situation - friendship, marriage, parenting, in-law relationships, aging parents and grandparents, family conflict, you name it. And this advice is coming from a guy who has collected so much data and done so many studies his vitae (academic resume) is as thick as the spring issue of InStyle Magazine.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
Oooooo ... this is going to be fun! One of our favorite local gift shops with one of my all-time favorite names ("i like you" - yes, that's their name) was voted to be the site of a Minneapolis CashMob this Saturday, April 14, Noon - 6 p.m.
Besides the fact that you will like (LOVE) everything at i like you - they feature all Minnesota artists - you might just be delighted to find a bunch of Happy Couple books, happy couple juice glasses, happy couples communicate well kits (oh, yes they do!), and happy couples "crave warmth" mugs. And might we mention i like you also features What Happy Parents Do books and What Happy Women Do books, and they're serving cookies - oh happiness!? Does it get any better?
It doesn't, so I know that me, my daughter and mom (she's coming to town this weekend and who, like me, loves to shop local), will be there! Will you? One-stop mother's day, wedding day, bridal shower, birthday shopping ... and supporting local business. A serious woo hoo for everyone.
i like you
small things for a prettier life...
501 1st Ave NE
Minneapolis, MN 55413
(Don't know about Cash Mob? Now's the perfect time (cashmob.com): "A cash mob brings community members together much like a flash mob; however, instead of the normal flash-mob activities, the cash mob storms the doors of a preselected mom-and-pop business that is often a cornerstone of a community and its history. Each mobber spend a previously agreed upon amount, usually $20.")