Saturday, November 28, 2009

Celebrating Disaster

At a particularly delightful breakfast this morning (at Moose and Sadie's downtown Minneapolis, check it out!), one couple told me (Anna) about their recently developed ritual of connection. One that is definitely worth sharing with our faithful blog readers. One that I'll definitely be adopting in my own relationship. It's that inspiring. They call it, "Celebrating Disasters." This couple has had a series of challenging events this fall, including a stolen car, frustrating home renovations, and the usual work struggles. After feeling down about all these problems, they decided to make a change. Rather than complaining and becoming bitter about these issues, they choose to celebrate them. How? With a fabulous dinner. Dancing. Anything fun. With this kind of attitude, this couple is in for a great life together.

Why is it that we typically only celebrate the exciting, uplifting, and positive moments in our relational lives? It's certainly easier, isn't it? But by not celebrating our challenging times, we might be missing out on some of the greatest opportunities for growth. Instead of dreading, sulking, and complaining, maybe we should start celebrating? When we've got someone to share these moments with, they might not be so bad after all. Right?


Cathy Bowles said...

What a great idea to 'celebrate disasters' instead of moaning--If it's all about 'choosing' then 'choosing to feel better' FEELS Better!!
Here's another idea: My husband and I hide a little glass heart for one another as a 'perpetual love note'. We call it Hide a Heart and it's been fun and a great way to keep the 'language of love' alive for us.

Carol Bruess and Anna Kudak said...

Cathy, we love the Hide a Heart ritual! How sweet. Thanks for sharing it.